“When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month or even your year, but I’ll be there for you.”
– Remember this famous title track from the series ‘Friends’. The six friends created so many
memories together by playing games together, comforting each other during break-ups, hanging out
at the coffee house sharing their experiences at work and going out for movies or trips together.
How many of us can sing the above song and for how many people? Are you friends with more than
a hundred people on Facebook and not even close to five? Dooming thought, isn’t it? We are posting
on social media about our lives to impress the people with whom we don’t even speak for months or
years and many not even once in a lifetime. Even then, we’re social media addicts because we are all
rats in the rat race, trying to win in vain.
Was it not more fun when we use to wait for our summer holidays as kids, now I am talking about
the 90s kids who use to play all sorts of running and hiding games? Life was simple without worrying
about what our cousin was doing overseas or how can we improve our presence online only to show
it to him that we’re doing better than him. It’s all a game of show now. Take a moment, think and try
to meet people in the park, talk to them…even if they are wearing earphones, ask them anything,
initiate a conversation, many would snub but many others would love the gesture.
Go play on the terrace or streets or just take a walk when you are taking a break from work, don’t
dive into useless Whatsapp groups just to have a few laughs. That is important too but set a time for
it, because we don’t want to end up robots in the end with necks bent down, lacking the ability to
interact in real life and only be adept at it virtually.
You’re up to date when it comes to the online world, yet feel disconnected. Why? According to a study
in Psychological Medicine depression has significantly increased in all ages and regions since 2005.
Even positive conversations done online don’t help. British anthropologist and evolutionary
psychologist Robin Dunbar developed the idea that based on our brain size, 150 people is the
the maximum number of meaningful connections any person can have.
Now answer this: How many people in your life you would not hesitate to start a conversation with if you run into them at a café or mall? So, think wisely before spending your time online, they will
soon turn into hours and add up to half your day where you could have achieved so much in addition
to mental satisfaction and peace instead of weariness and hollowness.